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5 Gifts for Handling the Holidays During Deployment

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You think you’re handling deployment or another long separation well, until you hear “I’ll be home for Christmas” while you’re grocery shopping, or “Celebrate Me Home” driving carpool. Or, really,  insert any holiday song, during any unsuspecting situation. Even Mariah Carey’s “All I want for Christmas is You” taunts the solo spouse with reminders that not even Santa can make that wish come true this year (even if it simultaneously makes you want to rip your ears off.)

The holidays are meant to be a time of togetherness; it’s why they can also double as an especially difficult time during military separation. Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, friends. Since we can’t give you, our wonderful readers, a physical gift — SpouseBuzz has five deployment gifts just for you.

5 Gifts for Handling the Holidays During Deployment:

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Here’s Why You Should Marry Him, MilSo

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Dear Military Spouse To Be:

Just like a woman awaiting to give birth for the first time, you aren’t truly ready for military life. You can’t possibly know how much your heart can love, and conversely, how much it can ache.

Recently one of my favorite authors published a column on Military.com about why you shouldn’t marry your military love. While I believe it was intended to be tongue in cheek, it encouraged you to run the other way, or at least wait until your significant other was out of the military before you wed. As with most things, there is another, if not several other sides. This is one of them.

Nearly eight years ago, I stood at the top of what seemed like an impossibly long aisle. As the doors to the church opened, I saw my groom in his dress whites and my father asked if I was ready. The word still gives me pause: ready. Excited? Absolutely. Confident in my decision? Without a doubt. But ready? Is anyone really, truly ready for the unknown? With any marriage, civilian or military, you never fully know what twists and turns your lives will take.

Just like a woman awaiting to give birth for the first time, you aren’t truly ready for military life. You can’t possibly know how much your heart can love, and conversely, how much it can ache. But if you can make that walk down the aisle, I can all but guarantee you these things.

No words in a column can prepare you for the incredible adventure you are about to begin. Yet somehow, we find a way to make that walk, to say those vows, and to look at our collective future with optimism, commitment, and unbridled love.

If you can make that walk down the aisle, I can all but guarantee you the following things:

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